The Quiet Journal

The Quiet Journal
Short visual guides for women who hold everything together, and are quietly tired of holding.
By Paula Miles, Psychotherapist
Why this journal exists
So many of the women who come to see me are the ones everyone else leans on. They are good at their jobs, they remember the birthdays, they notice when someone in the room is struggling, and from the outside it all looks handled. What they tell me once they sit down is usually something quite different: that they are tired in a way sleep doesn’t touch, that their mind rarely goes quiet, and that no matter how much they do, there is a feeling underneath that it still isn’t enough.
Once a month I write about one of the patterns I hear most often in my therapy room, and this journal holds a short visual version of each piece, with a few questions you can take with you and come back to when you have a quiet moment. I’m not trying to tell you what to do. I’m hoping that somewhere in these pages you recognise a part of yourself you haven’t had much space to look at.
Read the guides
Why can't I relax, even when everything is fine?
Why do I feel so drained after socialising? (coming soon)
Going deeper
If you’d like to go further
Each guide has a longer essay on my website, where I go a little deeper into what might be happening underneath.
And if something you read here stays with you, and you find yourself wondering what it would be like to talk it through with someone, you’re welcome to book a free call with me at paulamilestherapy.com.
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About Me
I’m Paula Miles, a  psychotherapist working in Basingstoke and online across the UK. Before becoming a therapist I spent eight years in corporate project management, so I know what it is to keep everything running while quietly running on empty. Today I work with women who look like they’re coping and feel like they’re not, and this journal is a small way of reaching those who aren’t ready for therapy yet but would like to feel a little less alone with what they carry.